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When you are grieving, even the thought of celebrating Christmas can be quite scary and your grief may become more intense during this period. When you are missing someone you may feel more angry, burst into tears, or generally feel worried about how you are going to get through the festivities. These feelings are all completely normal, and we have put together this blog to give you some tips for coping with grief at Christmas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Put Yourself First<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It can be helpful to plan in advance if you are worried about how you are going to cope over Christmas. Think about who you really want to spend time with, and any festivities that you feel like you want to take part in. There shouldn\u2019t be any pressure from your loved ones to even celebrate Christmas, you have to do what is best for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every person goes through bereavement in different ways, so put together a plan of what you will feel comfortable doing during the festive period and permit yourself to do what you want. There shouldn\u2019t be any guilt for letting yourself have a bit of enjoyment in your life, even after losing a loved one. Think about celebrating in their memory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember that your emotions are likely to change from one day to the next, so even if you have planned particular events don\u2019t put pressure on yourself to attend if you aren\u2019t feeling up to it on the day. Let yourself feel these emotions too, don\u2019t bottle everything up inside. If you have a hectic few days ahead of you, plan in some quiet time where you can relax and do what you need to do in order to feel a bit better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Find Ways To Remember Them<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Just because your loved one is no longer with you, it doesn\u2019t mean that you have to pretend you are ok and carry on with Christmas as normal. Take time to visit their grave or a place that was special to them, and if you feel up to it try talking to them either out loud or in silence. Tell them exactly how you are feeling, you might just find that letting everything out makes you feel slightly better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is entirely up to you whether you visit your loved one alone or with company, but make sure the choice is yours. Families can be incredible, but sometimes they don\u2019t quite understand things if they haven\u2019t been through it themselves. Explain that you need space away from them, or support from them, just let them know how they can help you through this difficult time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think About Old & New Traditions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Christmas often brings up traditions, and these can be even harder to navigate if you have lost a loved one. You may find yourself feeling upset as you can no longer carry out the traditions in the same way. Don\u2019t be afraid to change old traditions, or even create new ones. It doesn\u2019t mean that you are \u2018moving on\u2019, but just finding new ways to remember the person you are missing. If you have children, this can be incredibly important to help them cope with their grief too. Here are a few ideas to help you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n